Thank you.
I was desperately looking for some new clothes this afternoon. Unfortunately, I am at the age where I do not feel comfortable wearing printed t-shirts, sport team jerseys, or ripped up/faded jeans. Yet, I am too young to get away with a suit for everyday wear. So usually I have to pick through the clothes stores looking for something that isn't going to make me look as if I am trying to be the old guy that wants to be hip.
While the sales people just sat on their rumps judging everyone around then or glaring at anyone that asked them a question, you took a moment of your day just to give me a compliment which I rarely get. As I wrangled the pile of shirts which I was going to try on, you just said with honest sincerity: "You don't have to look so hard. They all are going to look good on you. "
I wish you could have realized how much those words meant to me. Men do not really get many compliments in modern day society. (At least I don't) While I was growing up, my family went through one financially lean time after another. My mother always tried her best to make sure that my clothes were not worn out and that I was warm in the winter, but they were never in fashion. I never got the new clothes everyone else did, we had to made due with shopping in the bargain bin store next to Quality Foods. This mental hang up never let me see myself as good looking when it comes to fashion. Growing up, my father was never really around. He was constantly working the night shifts. So I never got the chance to have the "dress like a man talk". I (painfully) taught myself how to shave. My grandfather was the one that taught me to tie a tie when he saw my pitiful attempts for school dances. So when someone from outside of my family actually paid attention to my looks it has usually been in the negative context.
The words you just casually said as you passed by may of been innocuous to you. You may go around complimenting every harried or stressed out man you see shopping alone. But, the complement stuck with me and alone made me feel like a million bucks.
Thank you.
I was desperately looking for some new clothes this afternoon. Unfortunately, I am at the age where I do not feel comfortable wearing printed t-shirts, sport team jerseys, or ripped up/faded jeans. Yet, I am too young to get away with a suit for everyday wear. So usually I have to pick through the clothes stores looking for something that isn't going to make me look as if I am trying to be the old guy that wants to be hip.
While the sales people just sat on their rumps judging everyone around then or glaring at anyone that asked them a question, you took a moment of your day just to give me a compliment which I rarely get. As I wrangled the pile of shirts which I was going to try on, you just said with honest sincerity: "You don't have to look so hard. They all are going to look good on you. "
I wish you could have realized how much those words meant to me. Men do not really get many compliments in modern day society. (At least I don't) While I was growing up, my family went through one financially lean time after another. My mother always tried her best to make sure that my clothes were not worn out and that I was warm in the winter, but they were never in fashion. I never got the new clothes everyone else did, we had to made due with shopping in the bargain bin store next to Quality Foods. This mental hang up never let me see myself as good looking when it comes to fashion. Growing up, my father was never really around. He was constantly working the night shifts. So I never got the chance to have the "dress like a man talk". I (painfully) taught myself how to shave. My grandfather was the one that taught me to tie a tie when he saw my pitiful attempts for school dances. So when someone from outside of my family actually paid attention to my looks it has usually been in the negative context.
The words you just casually said as you passed by may of been innocuous to you. You may go around complimenting every harried or stressed out man you see shopping alone. But, the complement stuck with me and alone made me feel like a million bucks.
Thank you.
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